Sunday, April 26, 2009

An almost hug from an almost stranger

Yesterday the Hubs and I went to his niece's birthday party. BIL and SIL are good friends with a couple who have gone through IF issues and ended up adopting internationally. I don't know the specifics of their situation, but they are really nice people. The wife, R, is always so friendly, and goes out of her way to say hi to me every time we're somewhere together. I know she knows our story. I'm actually really comforted to know that she does.

Yesterday, in the 5 minutes we were able to talk, she told me about her friend who had triplets through IF treatments and just found out she was pregnant naturally. Hearing a story like that may seem so random coming from someone I hardly know, but from her, it felt like so much more than that. I felt like she was saying "I know what you're going through. I know it's hard. We don't know each other, but I am on your side."

It was a short, simple conversation, but it meant so much to me. Thank you, R, for giving me that "almost hug."

13 comments:

Beautiful Mess said...

Awww how sweet! I'm glad you got an "almost hug". Have a GREAT day!
*HUGS*

Misty said...

That was really nice of her. It feels great to have people on your side!

Erika said...

I love when people who know what you're going through share their hugs through meaningful words. Good luck with everything!

ICLW

RMCarter said...

Aren't those wonderful! It's so funny to me that the exact same thing can be said by two different people but, depending on who they are and where they are coming from, it can be felt in such different ways. :) I am glad she was there for you yesterday.

ICLW

Clare said...

Only someone who's been down this IF road can relate to the everyday emptiness, the ache that we feel, support is everything in this IF battle. Im glad you got your almost hug.

Kim H. said...

That is very sweet - I'm about to write a post about something very similar. It's interesting how God puts people in our lives at the right moment to give us encouragement.

jenn said...

Hey Jill! Thanks for commenting on my blog the other day! That's very sweet of her. Its always nice to have someone whos been down the IF road and knows what you are going through.

The Patterson's said...

It's so nice to hear from people who care! Glad you were touched by her encouragement.

Cassandra said...

ICLW...

As isolating as IF often is, when we make connections based on IF it's amazing.

Jenn said...

Don't you just love it when that happens especially out of nowhere?

I have found that there are certain people in my life that when I get an extra added positive word from - it really means so much more than they could possibly know.

Thanks for stopping by my blog and for the record....House of Hunan chinese food is SOOOOOO much more "real" than what we have in Geneva!!!

HUGS!!!!!

tireegal68 said...

HI Jill - thanks so much for following my blog!
It really means a lot when people say that they get it - even people we don't know well, especially when we get so much negativity from some of the people that we hope do get it but often don't.
Have a great day:)
that is the third triplet story I heard in two days!

Lucky Jones said...

You'd be shocked at how many people you've got on your side :) I hope you see 2 lines soon :)

Grand Pooba said...

That is so cool you can connect that way with almost strangers!