Thursday, April 16, 2009

IF Etiquette?

I just found out my cousin is pregnant. It was twins, but she lost one. What do I say in the situation? Is it Congratulations or I’m sorry? Do I acknowledge that I know about the lost little one? We used to be really close when we were younger, but not so much anymore. What is the etiquette in this situation? You’d think I’d be better at this by now…..

4 comments:

Jendeis said...

I think it's best to acknowledge both. I'd say I heard that you were expecting and wanted to let you know that I'm so happy for you. But I also heard that lost one of your babies, and I am so sorry for your loss.

Amanda said...

I think the PP had a good solution. That would be so terrible, I'm sure she would appreciate some empathetic concern.

Beautiful Mess said...

I agree with both Jendeis and Amanda, congratulations are great, but also acknowledge the loss of her other baby. Sorry about this, your cousin is in my thoughts and prayers.

Good Egg Hunting said...

I agree -- tell her you are thinking of her on both fronts. These situations are tricky -- you are thoughtful to figure out the best way to send your wishes to her....